In the Name of Allāh.
O, husbands! Never be emotionally, mentally, or physically cruel to your wives. The Prophet (ﷺ) never mistreated his wives. He (ﷺ) was also known to help his wives at the house. As recorded in Ṣaḥīḥ al-Bukhārī 676, our mother, A’ishah (Raḍiyallāhu ‘Anha) was asked: “What did the Prophet (ﷺ) use to do in his house?” She replied, “He used to keep himself busy serving his family (كَانَ يَكُونُ فِي مِهْنَةِ أَهْلِهِ), and when it was the time for prayer, he would go for it.”
How well do you emulate the Prophet (ﷺ) in that? Remember Allāh says (in Sūrah Al-Ahzab [33] verse 21): “Indeed in the Messenger of Allāh you have an excellent example to follow for him who hopes in Allah and the Last Day and remembers Allāh much.” Helping one’s wife sometimes with household chores such as washing the dishes, cleaning, cooking, or bringing up the kids are today what many men feel embarrassed about. Any man who sees it as not proper for him or is too arrogant to help his wife around the house is acting against the Sunnah.
Although Islām made husbands the head of the family, Muslims aren’t supposed to be tyrants. It’s so sad today that some husbands are nothing but soldiers in their homes. They treat their wives like rivals rather than companions. They’re the boss, and whatever they say goes. While the wives are treated like maids or even slaves. Quite bad! Ibn Abbas (Raḍiyallāhu ‘Anhuma) reported, as recorded in Al-Mustadrak ‘ala as-Ṣaḥīḥayn that: The Prophet (ﷺ) said, “The best of you are those who are best to women.” So, ask yourself are you among the best of men?
The wives are to be treated with love, care and affection. As recorded in Ṣaḥīḥ al-Bukhārī 7376 and Ṣaḥīḥ Muslim 2319, the Prophet (ﷺ) said: “Allāh will not be merciful to those who are not merciful to people.” Husbands! Be merciful to your wives.
I beseech Allāh to grant our men all that it takes to be loving, caring and merciful. (Aameen)
