In the Name of Allāh.
It’s indeed part of righteousness and resourcefulness to teach our children “Home Management” particularly thru (our) good conducts because they diametrically learn from us. Let the children see that we give respect, love, care and attention to each other. They will thus switch on planning on how to correspondingly manage their homes well (especially treating their spouses nicely) when they eventually get married. That, we can give them their freedom and may need not to pry into the affairs of their (own) homes.
In some homes, the situation of things is really bad. Mothers-in-law are a problem to daughters-in-law. Wives are always depressed as husbands have become tyrants. Allāh warns (in Surah An-Nisaa [4] verse 19): “…And live with them honourably.” Ordinarily, a man should be able to make the distinction between the love of his parents (mother precisely) and the love of his wife. A dispute is inevitable! In a situation of disorderliness, the husband should quickly come in to mend the bridge since that is a way to help the next generation. To create a beautiful environment is the duty of the husband. Remember, the children are watching! And in fact, the children’s upbringing may be affected when their mother is busy fighting her battle (with her mother-in-law).
I beseech Allāh to protect our families from destruction. (Aameen)